inside a coaching conversation

One of my clients came into coaching after leaving a very controlling relationship. For a long time, her partner had told her what to do, what not to do, what was right and what was wrong. Over time, she had lost trust in her own thinking. Decisions felt difficult, even small ones. By the time she came into coaching, she didn’t want to revisit the relationship, she just wanted to move forward. But there was something I began to notice. Am I doing this right? What do you think

One of my clients came into a session wanting to talk about a difficult interaction at work. She had a meeting a few days before with a new client, and it didn’t go well. What was meant to be a productive conversation became tense and uncomfortable. At some point, the focus shifted from the work to their working relationship. Afterwards, she received feedback that confirmed this. The meeting hadn’t been effective. Something in the dynamic wasn’t working. They had another meet

One of my clients came into coaching shortly after ending a long-term relationship. At the beginning, she was very clear: she didn’t want to talk about it. It was done, and she wanted to move forward. As coaching is a client-led conversation, we therefore didn't discuss it at all during our sessions. Instead, we focused on other areas of her life: her work, her day-to-day interactions, the small moments where she felt tension or discomfort. After few sessions, a pattern began

One of my clients had been working as a digital nomad for the past five years. Freedom was one of his core values: the ability to move, to choose where he lives, to work in a way that fits his own rhythm. At the beginning of our sessions, he just returned to his home country for some administrative tasks, as well as to spend some time with family and friends. But, when we had our third session, he told me that something unexpected came up: A job opportunity. He then decided

One of my clients shared with me how, due to her childhood upbringing, she has been abandoning herself for the entirety of her adult life, and how she never put herself first. Almost every time her own needs surfaced, they were quickly pushed aside, often with an underlying belief: “If I put myself first, it means I’m being selfish.” When I heard this during the session, I asked her a simple question: What is the difference to you between “putting yourself first” and “being s